This Heart Holds Many: My Life as the Nonbinary Millennial Child of a Polyamorous Family

As children, many of us were asked by our mother to do the dishes. Perhaps some of us would need to be asked more than once. Koe Creation would get asked three times, by three different mothers. Crowded parent teacher conferences, queer youth summer camp, and parental adoptions over potluck dinners were typical of Koe's upbringing in a queer polyamorous family.

Still: all families know conflict, and all hearts know struggle, no matter how loved. While in the spotlight as a "poster child" for the alternative Seattle community, Koe yearned for a realization of themself beyond the "shadow of their tribe."

This drive for a singular identity led Koe to leave the alt-Seattle scene behind them — first for the vivacious beaches of Hawai'i, and later for the couches of San Francisco — to find the self that no one person, or even one family, could make for them.

This Heart Holds Many is a testament of transformative, communal love, as told by an educator and lifelong learner who has dedicated their life to helping others grasp their extraordinary love.