What do our fantasies say about our real life desires? That’s a hotly contested topic. Some scenarios are hot on the page—and we want them to stay there. Others… well, they may give us hints about relationship dynamics or bedroom play we’d like to try out.

No matter how dark or outlandish the topic, the underlying turn-ons can be more accessible than they seem. From dirty talk and role play, to sex games, kink, threesomes, & more—there are real life options from mild to wild for exploring these desires.

The trick with most fantasies is knowing where to start. What are the options for safe, consensual, real-life play? How can you bring the idea up to a partner? We’ll pair fantasy exploration exercises with communication and negotiation tools to help you get started. And don’t worry — we’ll work with example fantasies too — so no need to share your reading list unless you want to!

Stella Harris is a certified intimacy educator, sex coach, and author. You may have seen her perform at storytelling events, heard her on a podcast, or read one of her articles or books. She’s been offering sex, kink, and relationship workshops for more than a decade! Stella’s wide-ranging expertise has led to being featured on the evening news discussing the importance of sex education in schools, being sent with a press pass to a strip club to report on Stormy Daniels, appearing as an expert witness in court, and even speaking as an authority on banana slug mating habits.

Stella is the author of two books, Tongue Tied: Untangling Communication in Sex, Kink, and Relationships, and The Ultimate Guide to Threesomes. Her short stories have appeared in numerous anthologies including Best Women’s Erotica and The Big Book of Bondage.

Learn more at www.stellaharris.net or follow @stellaharriserotica on Instagram or stellaharris.bsky.social on Blue Sky. 

This class will be held LIVE online via Zoom — Zoom links are sent out 3 days prior and then again 1 hour before class. If you sign up within 3 days, please be patient in waiting for the final reminder email, which will be sent out 1 hour before the class.

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