Love's Not Color Blind: Race and Representation in Polyamorous and Other Alternative Communities
A polyamorous black man explores the intersections of racism and polyamory and its impact on people of color navigating an already misunderstood lifestyle.
Polyamory, however compassionate an alternative to monogamy, is still rooted and operates in a racist society. The issues that make monogamous dating daunting for people of color — shaming and exclusion by white partners, being fetishized, having realities of everyday racism ignored — occur in polyamorous relationships too, and trying "not to see race" only makes it worse. To make polyamorous communities inclusive, we must all acknowledge our part in perpetuating racism and listen to people of color.
These conversations can be difficult and even self-incriminating. But they are necessary for us to build a better alternative.
Love's Not Colorblind puts forward the framework — through research, anecdotal testimony, and analogy — for understanding, identifying, and ultimately confronting the manifestations of racism within polyamorous communities.