Beyond Monogamy

Thursday, April 17th — 7:30 p.m. — $20

A growing number of people are exploring alternatives to monogamy, through swinging, polyamory, and other types of open relationships. If you or someone you know are one of those people, this might be the workshop for you!

Whether you are curious about opening up, already enjoying polyamory and wanting to do it even better, or facing obstacles in your non-monogamous relationship, AJ will help walk you through the challenges and benefits of ethical non-monogamy. She will discuss different styles of open relationships, talk about how to deal with common issues such as jealousy, resentment, time management, miscommunication, and New Relationship Energy (NRE), and will offer tips on dating/meeting new people, navigating different relationship structures and hierarchies, and coming out poly.

In this interactive workshop, AJ will guide participants through exercises that help them negotiate agreements/boundaries, design their own ideal open relationships, and practice nonviolent communication for deeper, more fulfilling connections. There will also be the option to hear about real-life triumphs and tribulations of other non-mono people in addition to learning how to find and build community. This is a 2-hour class.

AJ (aka Amory Jane) is one of She Bop’s in-house sex educators. She graduated with a master’s degree from Lewis & Clark College, where she studied Sex Therapy and Marriage, Couple, & Family Counseling. She has facilitated multiple discussion groups and taught dozens of sex education workshops around Portland and the Midwest. She also moonlights as a relationship coach, working with polyamorous individuals and couples in open relationships. AJ is an active member of the Portland poly community.

This class has already taken place. Thanks for attending!

  • Julianne

    Had a wonderful time! My partner and I learned so much and it was wonderful being around like-minded people. Thank you so much AJ.
    Question, where would you necessarily go to meet more poly people more often?

    • Amory Jane

      Hello! So glad you and your partner enjoyed the workshop! Thank you for attending.

      Poly people are all over Portland, but actually finding them can be a little bit challenging sometimes. ;) There are a few local meet up groups where you can find other people who are practicing non-monogamy, like the ones listed here: http://portlandpolyamory.com/schedule.html.
      You may want to check out some of the other groups (both the in-person meet up and local facebook groups) that are listed on the side bar of that website too.

      In talking with other Portland poly people though, many of them have said they’ve made friends and met up with other non-monogamous folks through okcupid. The website has a new feature where you are able to specifically search for people who practice non-monogamy, so that makes it easier than ever to search profiles and find like-minded friends!

      Finally, you may want to keep your eyes on the She Bop newsletter and/or Twitter account, as I am hoping to eventually start a meet up group for poly Portlanders 21-35 (as that is an age group that seems to be embracing non-monogamy more and more but doesn’t have a lot of community resources yet).

      Hope that helps!


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