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How to choose your first vibrator

So you want to buy your first vibrator — or replace a crappy old one. It seems like a daunting task, we know! And there are certainly a ton of options out there. But it’s not as difficult as it seems, and believe us, it can be fun and exciting once you’ve been pointed in the right direction. That is what we’re going to do here!

When choosing your first vibe, a lot depends on which part of your body you want to stimulate. Do you want clitoral stimulation only? Penetration only? Or do you want an insertable toy that can double as a clitoral vibe? Perhaps you want a dual stimulator, like a rabbit, for simultaneous penetration and clitoral stimulation? Making a decision on this front will narrow the field right off the bat!

Understanding which types of stimulation you prefer can be helpful as well. Do you like direct and pinpoint stimulation, or more widespread stimulation? Pressure or a light touch? Are you pretty sensitive, or do you crave a lot of stimulation at once? It’s okay if you’re not sure about these questions, as some vibes have a whole range of vibration intensities and options that won’t lock you into just one way of using them. Besides, you’ll learn more about what you like once you find a good toy to experiment with.

Some shops still carry toys made of questionable and potentially unsafe materials — but not us. By shopping with us, you’ll know that whatever toy you choose will be body-safe and phthalate-free. Without all the mystery meat materials clogging up our inventory, there are two non-porous vibrator materials to choose between: plastic and silicone. Plastic is hard and smooth; it transmits vibrations very well and provides excellent pressure if you want it. Silicone is a softer, more plush material. However, different manufacturers utilize silicone in different ways. Fun Factory toys, for instance, are some of the most squishy, whereas silicone-coated toys from LELO, Je Joue, and Jimmyjane are velevety but tend to be quite rigid.

Your budget will probably come into play early on in your search for the right vibe. In general, battery-operated toys are cheaper than rechargeable ones, but they also require you to purchase batteries often. If you’ve already experienced the untimely death of a cheap toy, it may reassure you to know that many rechargeable vibes come with warranties. We also carry a few vibes that plug into the wall, and those range in price from $60 to $145.

While not always true, the type and number of batteries that a vibrator uses can be indicative of its vibration strength. A vibe that uses watch batteries, for instance, is not going to have the kind of power as a vibe that takes C batteries. If you’re able to visit us in person, you can pick up each vibe and feel its power for yourself.

Almost all vibrators can be used for clitoral stimulation, so if that’s what you’re after, there is a lot of range in terms of size, shape, and power source. There’s everything from the 2-inch Power Bullet to the foot-long Hitachi Magic Wand. Obviously, some of these are more discreet than others! If you’re looking for a vibe that can blend into its surroundings, check out the I Rub My Duckies (they camouflage as cute bath toys), Kandi Kisses (when closed, it looks like a tube of lipstick), or LELO Mia (USB rechargeable and can pass as a jump drive).

Mini vibes are a popular choice for beginners because they are small, discreet, and easy to hold. Corded bullets like Silver BulletBnaughty, and Vibin’ Miss Daisy are especially simple to operate, as you control vibrations using the power pack. (Plus, you can quickly and cheaply spruce up your bullet or pocket rocket by grabbing a sleeve: the Rabbit Sleeve, Dandelion Sleeve, or Pixie Sleeve.) A good, dependable mid-range mini vibe is the Layaspot. Some great rechargeable mini vibes are the LELO Siri, Je Joue MiMi, Jimmyjane Form 2, We-Vibe Tango, and LELO Mia.

Some toys are exceptional at enhancing certain masturbation techniques. For instance, if you like rubbing your clitoris with your finger, there are vibes that can add buzz to your usual routine. FukuokuIpo, and the Far Out Finger Vibe actually strap to your finger, while the Jimmyjane Form 3 has a thin, vibrating silicone membrane that your finger can control. If you like to grind against something to get yourself off, the CleoThe Cone, or the Rock Chick can only make your technique more pleasurable. Do you often masturbate to music? Well, the OhMiBod Freestyle W lets you feel the music!

If you know what kind of sensation you enjoy against your clitoris, there are some unique vibes to consider. If you like flickering, look at the Sqweel 2. If you like the rolling pressure of a tongue, behold the Je Joue SaSi. If you prefer a gentle back and forth, try the Eroscillator. If you like your clit to be surrounded on both sides, the Jimmyjane Form 2 and Crave Duet can do that.

One special category of vibrators is wands. These powerful clitoral toys are characterized by their shape, which was originally meant to help relieve back and neck pain. Today, they are used for pleasure as well, they vary in size tremendously (look at this tiny one!), and they have different power sources. Some, like the Hitachi and Acuvibe, have large heads and strong vibrations that provide deep, penetrating stimulation on a large surface area, which some people love. Others, like the Mystic Wand and Fairy Mini, are smaller but just as powerful. One perk about wands is that many can accommodate attachments, turning them from solely clitoral vibes into insertable and dual stimulation ones.

On the other hand, if you’re very sensitive or you’ve previously tried a strong toy and didn’t enjoy it, we carry vibes with softer, milder vibrations, such as the LELO Nea, Bcute Pearl, Fun Factory Spring, and Bunny Tickler. You’ll find that many rechargeable toys, especially those from LELO, start off on a pleasingly low first level, which can be increased if needed.

If you’ve never had an orgasm, you’ll probably want a toy with a large range of vibration strengths so you can play around and discover exactly which level you like. The Fairy Mini and LELO Mona 2 are perfect for this purpose.

A lot of vibes with long shafts can be used both internally and externally. These toys are awesome options for a beginner, as they allow for the most amount of experimentation. The Easy GliderZizo, and Rebel Tickler are a few versatile battery-powered vibes. In the rechargeable category, there are vibes like the LELO Liv and Jimmyjane Form 6. When considering insertable toys, always keep size in mind. You don’t want to end up with something bigger than you can handle! So measure whatever you generally use for insertion — both girth and length — and use that as a guide.

On the hunt for a vibe you can use during sex? You’ll want one that’s small or thin enough to fit between two bodies. Vibes with longer shafts are actually good for this purpose, as they can reduce the strain on your hand and fingers. Or you could try the couples-oriented We-Vibe 3 or Tiani 2.

If your main concern is exploring your G-spot, then you’ll want a vibe with a pronounced and/or curved head. Some inexpensive options are the Slimline GBgee, and Rebel Tickler. More high-end choices include the LELO Gigi, Je Joue G-Ki, and LELO Mona 2. There are also some vibrating dildos and non-vibrating dildos that are ideal for G-spot play. Learn more about picking out the perfect G-spot toy in our guide.

And how about the two-in-one toys? Some folks find the idea of a dual or rabbit vibe especially appealing, as they offer simultaneous internal and external stimulation. The downside to these toys is that they are very anatomy-specific, and their abundant stimulation may feel overwhelming to beginners. The upside is that when a rabbit really works for you, it can become your go-to toy. One small and non-intimidating dual vibe is the Fun Factory Flash. Kaya is also a nice introductory rabbit. Get the in-depth low-down on rabbit vibes in our guide.

There’s just one final factor you should consider when choosing your first vibrator: aesthetics! Your sense of style will probably guide you anyway when you’re browsing our shop, but be sure to listen to it! You’ll be much more likely to use a toy that you find visually appealing.

Still feeling boggled? Come to our recurring class, The Joys of Toys!, in which our very own AJ covers everything you need to know about delving into the big wide world of sex toys.

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