Wednesday, April 1st — 7:30 pm — FREE
4/1 might be April Fools Day, but we’re not joking around — educator Emily Nagoski and cartoonist Erika Moen really will be joining forces at She Bop for a fun and special evening of education, laughs, and sex geekery! Emily Nagoski, Ph.D. will be reading from her brand new book Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life, which was illustrated by Erika Moen of Oh Joy Sex Toy. Both Emily and Erika will be answering your questions about sex, science, relationships, and sex toys.
This event is free, but you can purchase raffle tickets online or in the shop for $5 each to help raise funds for Scarleteen, an inclusive, smart sexuality education website for young people. The night will conclude with a raffle for some sweet prizes, including a signed copy of Emily’s book, She Bop gift certificates, and even a custom cartoon portrait drawn by Erika Moen!
Raffle winners will be drawn at the event and must be present to win. If you wish to simply donate, make a note at checkout that you won’t be present at the event. Proceeds from the raffle will go directly to Scarleteen!
What do you do when your partner lacks blowjob skills? Where do you go for training when you wish to improve your own? Here!
M. Makael Newby is a relationship coach and dance instructor with a particular skill for breaking physical action into components and teaching them with enthusiasm… and blowjobs are one of her favorite things. This class will educate both the givers and receivers. Come learn about creating anticipation, communication, preparing for success, hand skills, tongue tricks, prostate massage, deep throating, sloppy BJs, choking and forced gagging for both bio and strap-on penises. Live demo (on dildo) included.
Many of these techniques are included in My Erotic Adventure, her choose-your-own styled erotic novel. Get empowered to give and receive extraordinary head!
Limited space available — sign up online!
The annual day of love is right around the corner — and you know we have the goods to help you celebrate in style! Sometimes, though, it can be hard to find just the right gift to woo someone with, or the perfect thing to splurge on for yourself. So we’ve rounded up our top recommendations for sexy items to make this Valentine’s Day memorable (and pleasurable!).
A lot of folks like to receive beautiful jewelry as a gift, but this is no ordinary necklace — the Vesper is also a fully functional vibrator. Made with sparkling stainless steel, this vibrator from Crave can compliment someone’s look and give them an orgasm at the end of the night. Awesomely, it has three speeds, one pulsation pattern, and it’s USB rechargeable.
Double-ended dildos are perfect for couples, and Fun Factory’s new ShareVibe ups the ante on what a double-ended dildo can be. Modeled after their popular Share dildo, the ShareVibe is designed so that one partner can wear the bulb end vaginally in order to penetrate someone else with the shaft — with or without a harness. True to its name, the ShareVibe comes with a multi-function rechargeable bullet vibrator that fits snugly in its base. Since the bullet is removable, it can even be used sans dildo.
What’s more romantic than a good, old-fashioned kiss? In this pint-sized guide by sexpert Violet Blue, there are tips for all kinds of kissing scenarios. Learn how to give and receive a first kiss, time your kisses perfectly, read body language, and cultivate your own kissing style. Kissing: A Field Guide is a cute, back-to-basics book that will remind you to pause and appreciate the power of a kiss.
From photos, you can’t tell what the Limon‘s true superpower is, but this toy actually has squishy sides that react to touch. The harder you squeeze, the stronger the vibration it produces, and there’s even a mode in which you can “record” your own custom vibration pattern and play it back. This interactive functionality makes the Limon a wonderful toy for couples to explore and use together.
Just another butt plug? Nope! The Fun Factory B Balls have two inner balls that roll around with movement, adding unique stimulation to your anal play, while the silicone body and flared base make this toy safe and comfortable to wear. Whether you wear the B Balls as a prelude to anal sex or simply for fun during everyday activities, they are sure to put some pep in you or your partner’s step!
The OhMiBod blueMotion is one of only a few sex toys on the market that can be controlled remotely. And we don’t just mean from across the room — we mean from across the country. The slim, ABS plastic vibrator is meant to slide effortlessly into underwear for hands-free clitoral stimulation. Meanwhile, a partner can create vibration patterns by tapping their phone’s screen in a rhythm, recording their voice, physically tilting their phone, and more. Excellent for long-distance relationships!
Good, solid vibrators don’t have to cost a ton, the Bettie Page Buzzin’ Bullet is a great example. This shiny, smooth vibe takes 2 AAAs and features three vibration intensities and three modes. Controlled by a simple push button on its base, the Bettie Page Buzzin’ Bullet performs admirably whether it’s used clitorally or vaginally. Plus, it comes with a tin of minty arousal balm and some Bettie Page themed trinkets!
Filthy Farmgirl’s soaps are basically irresistible. Not only do they smell amazing, but they have amusing names accompanied by adorable labels. This seasonal soap smells like cardamom rose, but there are other options if your valentine is more of a ylang ylang type of person, for instance.
At first blush, it may seem like we’ve included the Cuddle simply because it’s pink and comes in heart-printed packaging. All of this is true, but the glory of Cuddle is in its functionality. This vibrator is jam-packed with vibration intensities and scalable patterns, and its petite curved shape makes it ideal for clitoral or G-spot stimulation. As an added bonus, it is one of the most inexpensive rechargeable vibrators on our shelves, because it’s splashproof rather than fully waterproof.
When it comes to new technological innovations, LELO is always coming up with something exciting. This month it’s the Mona Wave and Ina Wave, based on their popular Mona and Ina vibrators. These unique toys have shafts that physically move up and down, mimicking a “come hither” motion against the G-spot.
LELO also released an upgraded version of one of their classic vibrators: Siri 2. We’re thrilled that this toy is now waterproof and more powerful than before! It even has a sound-responsive setting, enabling the toy to vibrate to any music playing in its vicinity.
We have several other new toys — the Crave Vesper, OhMiBod Lovelife Cuddle, Bettie Page Buzzin’ Bullet, and Fun Factory ShareVibe — which are featured in our Valentine’s Day Picks. Visit that post for more information about each!
Prolific feminist porn maker Erika Lust just released the third installment of her DVD series X Confessions. With stories based on anonymous sex confessions submitted to her site, this compilation features group sex, roleplay, outdoor sex, ice play, strap-on sex, and more! We also picked up some delicious new queer porn from Courtney Trouble: Fucking Mystic, Fuckstyles 2: Dirty Fucks, and Trans Lesbians.
Our latest books include Best Women’s Erotica 2015, Kissing: A Field Guide, As Kinky As You Wanna Be: Your Guide to Safe, Sane, and Smart BDSM, and the latest from the venerable senior sex expert Joan Price, The Ultimate Guide to Sex After Fifty. The new Original Plumbing is the Selfie Issue, featuring reader-submitted photos and ruminations on trans portrayals in popular culture!
Finally, just in time for Valentine’s Day, we snagged some of Filthy Farmgirl’s fabulous Filthy Valentine soap! The scent is cardamom rose, and it is lovely.
Journalists, especially those not familiar with the adult industry, can sometimes make sweeping statements that aren’t exactly correct. For example, it is common for a mainstream journalist or blogger to off-handedly lament that there is no porn out there for women.
That’s what happened when Nikki Gloudeman wrote an article at Ravishly arguing that she couldn’t find any tasteful, well-acted porn for women. While she conceded that feminist porn does exist, she insisted that all of it was “decidedly low-budget and short on a truly compelling plotline.”
This isn’t true, and readers and porn filmmakers alike rushed in with evidence to the contrary. A month later, Gloudeman wrote a follow-up post. “I was wrong. Very wrong. Shamefully wrong,” she wrote. She was sent a box of DVDs from Jacky St. James, director of New Sensations’ Romance Series.
I immediately curled up on the couch to watch a rom-com sex romp called The Friend Zone. And, well . . . it was good. Like, really good. It had legitimate production values. The acting ranged from just fine to truly impressive. The script was funnier than most mainstream rom-coms in theaters today (Hollywood producers, take note). And . . . what’s this? Is that a sex scene involving people who actually seem to care about one another? Is that woman being respected as she’s being pleasured? Is that a condom I see?
The experience was, in a word, a revelation, satisfying in every desired way.
With this new world opened up, Gloudemen set out to interview several women doing great things within the adult industry. She talked to two producers of adult DVDs, Erika Lust and Jacky St. James, and two owners of erotic websites, Angie Rowntree of Sssh.com and Anna of FrolicMe.com.
Rowntree began in the mid-’90s, when everyone told her there was no market for women’s porn, and she has been steadily proving them wrong ever since. Anna started with an erotic blog, which then morphed into writing stories and making films with the same sensual aesthetic. Lust studied political science and took film directing classes before shooting her first erotic short, which was so popular it changed the course of her life. Jacky St. James, an avid porn consumer, happened upon a script-writing contest for New Sensations’ Romance Series. The company loved her submission, and she soon quit her corporate job to write and direct full-time.
Ultimately, all four women were dissatisfied with some facet of the erotic material they consumed (as Erika Lust put it: “when I first watched porn the feminist in me felt cheated, the activist in me felt mad and the sexual me felt . . . aroused”), and that is part of what drives them to make something different.
Gloudemen asked each of them about their personal histories with porn, their goals and ideals with their work, what they think about the word “porn,” and where feminism fits in with what they do. The interview is full of amazing and thoughtful answers, but Rowntree’s response to the question “why is it important for women to have access to adult films that resonate with them?” is particularly insightful:
One of the criticisms I hear the most about the porn industry is that its products objectify women and present us in a very unflattering way—and that’s true of a lot of porn. To me, though, the answer isn’t to protest the porn industry, try to get porn censored, or even to spend a lot of time and energy trying to convince people that porn is bad. To me, the answer is to make better porn. The answer is to make porn that does present women in a good light, that does depict true intimacy and that does emphasize mutual pleasure, instead of reducing the women it depicts to being mere objects of men’s pleasure.
All four women urged readers to always keep looking if they can’t find porn that appeals to them. Go beyond tube sites and rudimentary Google searches. Peruse the nominees and winners of the Feminist Porn Awards. Visit sex shops and ask questions. It’s out there, and it’s really well-done — you just have to dig a little bit deeper.
Thursday, April 23rd — 7:30 pm — $20
Even in 2015 the notion of sex between trans and non-trans people strikes fear and curiosity in many queer people. For trans people, how to come out and express one’s desire and physical/mental make up to a non-trans person remains a monumental hurdle. For non-trans people, how to acknowledge, accept and engage in a mutual sexual attraction with a trans person and risk rejection from various communities remains a hurdle. Within those concerns lie the issues of exoticization, race, class, and plain old sexual mechanics!
Our goals in this workshop are to provide an open atmosphere for people to address these issues, as well as to look at the state of sex-positivity in the queer movement. We encourage people to attend, learn, and go away from the workshop having gained insight into how to have responsible, meaningful and FUN sex!
Yoseñio V. Lewis is a Latino of African Descent female to male transsexual who has been a social justice activist since he was 13 years old. A health educator, speaker, writer, performer, trainer, facilitator and spiritual hugger, Yoseñio has been a panelist and keynote speaker at numerous universities and sexuality conferences. He was one of the inaugural honorees of The Trans 100 list.
Yoseñio is a co-founder of Big Boys’ Ink™ Productions, a theatrical writing and performing company, and he has been featured in several documentaries about gender identity and the trans* experience.
Yoseñio believes that there can be no art without activism and no activism without art.
Limited space available — sign up online!
Wednesday, March 18th — 7:30 pm — $20
You asked and we answered—She Bop presents a cunnilingus class for anyone and everyone who wants to learn how to give (or receive!) phenomenal oral pleasure.
She Bop educators, Amory Jane and Sid Need, will teach you everything you want to know about anatomy, arousal, hand tricks, and tongue techniques. They will discuss foreplay, communication, and finding your own cunnilingus style, as well as give pointers on how to incorporate toys, temperature, and g-spot stimulation. Additionally, our educators will talk about fun ways to kick it up a notch if you’re stuck in a muff diving rut (face sitting, anyone?)!
This class is open to all genders, experience levels, and identities.
Limited space available — sign up online!
Sunday, March 1st — 7:30 p.m. — $20
Are you intrigued by the idea of tying someone up and having your way with them, or perhaps being restrained while someone does delightfully kinky things to you? Well, this class is designed to be a friendly first step towards that goal!
This class will cover the many hot ways bondage can be used (it’s not just about dominance, folks!), address safety concerns, and teach three simple and functional ties. We will then experiment with creative ways of applying these basic techniques to put people in a variety of compromising positions. Handouts and online video links will be distributed to help remind you of key skills when you get home.
Please come wearing comfortable clothes that you can move around in. You may want to come with a practice partner, but it isn’t necessary (please note that the $20 registration is per person). People of all genders and orientations are very welcome.
Chris is a happy, sex-positive perv who has been grinning his way through the kink scene for about eight years. He helps organize CockCircus, Seattle’s only public BDSM party for men, and enjoys evangelizing about the many virtues of bondage.
Limited space available — sign up online!
Sportsheets International began quietly, as a small business operating out of founder Tom Stewart’s garage. It was 1993, and Stewart had already spent years teaching himself to sew. He had a vision, one that had been sparked years earlier as he watched David Letterman, decked out in a velcro suit, jump on a trampoline and stick himself to a wall.
What if you could stick your sex partner to a wall?
The result of this inspiration was the company’s flagship product — a soft velcro bed sheet called the Sportsheet. With the accompanying anchor pads and cuffs, users could strap their partners down anywhere on the bed.
The following year, Stewart asked his sister Julie to become his partner in the business. Neither had any formal business experience, and the company wasn’t initially making much money, but the tides quickly turned. There was a definite market for the Sportsheet. Eventually, more of Stewart’s family joined the business, and they now operate out of a 17,000 square foot building in Huntington Beach, California. They’ve developed more than 400 different bondage and positioning products, with half manufactured in the US.
Tom Stewart, you could say, has become an expert on encouraging sexual creativity and helping people achieve sexual positions. He also spent 20 years in the military. So it made sense when, five years ago, he was invited to show off his products at the Coalition to Salute America’s Heroes Road to Recovery conference, which brings wounded troops and their families together. His straps, slings, and harnesses were a huge hit with attendees — so he kept going back, listening, brainstorming, and inventing.
That’s how he came up with the heavy-duty adaptive sling pictured above, designed for a quadriplegic veteran wanting to have sex in the missionary position. He also invented a strap to facilitate doggy style for folks who can’t bend over easily. Even something as simple as a thigh harness can change a couple’s sex life, as Stewart explains:
One of the products we came up with was what’s called a thigh harness, and it’s like a neoprene knee brace. If you slide that up your thigh with a dildo inside the little hole, all of a sudden you’ve got a dildo mounted on your thigh. I took this thigh harness and other strap-ons to a [retail sex] show in Canada, and there was a guy in a wheelchair who came up and said, “Hey, I want to try this.” We put this thigh harness on him, and we put this dildo on his right leg.
I said to his girlfriend, “Come over here. Squat down on this thing — imagine you’re naked and this dildo’s going inside of you.” So, she was kind of grinding on his thigh — you know, simulating — and she’s going, “Oh my God, this is phenomenal. We can have intercourse like this!” This was really the beginning of products for people who have disabilities.
As Sportsheets enters its third decade in business, they remain true to their motto of “Keeping Couples Connected.” Although the company began with only a single product, today they are known for their work with disabled veterans, their inexpensive bondage products such as paddles, feather ticklers, and handcuffs, their great beginner’s harnesses, and the ingenious Under the Bed Restraint System. Tom Stewart is currently working on a hollow dildo strap-on harness for folks experiencing erectile difficulties.
Did Santa forget to put a sexy gift in your stocking? Perhaps you received a She Bop gift certificate that’s burning a hole in your pocket? The holidays have gone by in a flash, but we still have some presents under the She Bop tree.
From today through Wednesday, December 31st, we’re putting some amazing toys, books, and other fun stuff on sale at 15% off. Come by the shop to get 15% off on:
- All Bswish vibrators
- All Happy Valley Fuze toys, including butt plugs and dildos
- Fun Factory Pearly and Semiliino
- From the LELO Insignia line: Alia, Isla, and Soraya
- Pocket Toyfriends
- Tenga Flip Holes
- All erotica books (in-store only)
- Sliquid Sea lube
See all our online sale items right here!
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She Bop is a women-owned sex toy boutique specializing in body safe products and education. Our mission is to promote healthy and safe sexuality by offering quality products and educational workshops in a fun and comfortable environment. She Bop welcomes people of all genders and sexual orientations.
- March 1, 2015 – Let's Play with Rope Tonight!: A Friendly Introduction to Bondage
- March 11, 2015 – Tease a Peel: Classic Burlesque Peeling Techniques
- March 18, 2015 – Bon Appetit!: The Fine Art of Cunnilingus
- April 1, 2015 – Foolin' Around with Emily Nagoski & Erika Moen
- April 12, 2015 – Full-Bodied Fellatio
- April 23, 2015 – Renaming Desire: Trans/Non-Trans Sex Revisited
- We're so excited to be hosting a fun talk and Q&A with @emilynagoski and @ErikaMoen in April! http://t.co/oPNnFZCUWU
- Thx @SossityWrites for such kind words about us in @PQmonthly!! We were happy to help you pick a toy for your needs. http://t.co/gwIgPhB0wj
- Yup, we're open regular hours today! 11 am - 7 pm. Need a late V-Day gift? Have a gift certificate burning a hole in yr pocket? Come see us!
- Have you caught @tripo's Becoming Dr. Ruth yet? There are still showings through the end of the month! http://t.co/tKYCHGmGrG
- Last day of Small Shops, Big Hearts on Mississippi! Stop by for chocolates and V-Day shopping; visit our neighbors! http://t.co/jPjKCLhipb
- Happy happy Valentine's Day!! We'll be staying open until 9 pm tonight at both our locations in case you need us! http://t.co/9nGBHvTMXw
- It's the day before Valentine's Day, so we're staying open an hour later at both locations, tonight & tomorrow night! http://t.co/b3zuIwjkcw
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